Vim remote editing: why no --remote-send-silent? -

i send commands named vim server. if named server doesn't exist, should created automatically, , commands run in new instance of vim.

my problem there isn't "silent" version of --remote-send. think option such --remote-send-silent want, doesn't exist.

is there way achieve this? alternatively, there way query (programmatically) whether named vim server exists, can switch behaviour accordingly?